Why Is Your Inner Child Running the Show?

We all have an inner child who holds our unwanted (shadow) emotions. You know,  all the emotions we’re taught to be ashamed of and push down.  And, like all kids, he/she just wants your attention.  If the child doesn’t get your attention, they will throw a fit until you acknowledge them.  EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a simple and highly effective therapy for working with our inner children in a respectful way.  Here are the simplified steps:

  1. You begin with the end. Ask yourself how you want to feel?  Example: peace. Therefore, peace would be your intended outcome.
  1. Identify what’s in the way; in other words, what do you feel now.  Example: anger.
  1. Engage the anger fully by giving love to your inner angry child while tapping. Give them the space to feel exactly how they feel.  This is not about blame.  Counterintuitive as it may seem to honor your angry inner child, that’s exactly where you’ll find the freedom you’re seeking.  Our inner child just wants our love and attention.  When you let them  be, they will also let you be.
  1. After the emotion has subsided, now is the time to tap on your intended outcome.  This strengthens and internalizes your goals and intentions.

It is my observation that the reason we get bogged down in the  swamp of complicated emotion is because we’re taught to judge and bury our emotions rather than honoring them.  I have taught EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to many clients, helping  them to free themselves from unwanted emotional baggage.

If you want support in freeing your inner child, let EFTSoulPath guide you on your journey to self-love so that you can begin to create a life you love.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—so that you can create a life you love! 

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Does the Energy Behind Money Really Matter?

Many folks believe that money is just money.  Right?  Maybe there’s more to this belief than meets the eye…  I am eager to present to you this extraordinary Ted Talk by Lynne Twist, global activist and author of the life-changing book,  ‘Soul of Money’.

My take-aways from Lynne’s profound  book are:

  • To adopt an ‘enough’ attitude. So much of my life has been driven by not enough. From the time I awaken:  ‘not enough sleep, not enough time, not enough money.’  These unconscious beliefs lay the groundwork for high-level stress and anxiety, along with attracting more ‘not enough’ in my life.  I’m gaining freedom by examining my ‘not enough’s’ and changing them to gratitude for ‘always enough’ no matter what appearances may look like at the time.
  • To refrain from labeling folks as ‘poor’. While there are many folks who live in substandard circumstances, these conditions have taught people to be strong and resilient, faith-filled and trusting.  Labeling folks ‘poor’ is demeaning to them and to me.
  • As a global fund raiser, Ms. Twist has worked with the very wealthy. She explains how loneliness, isolation and ‘soullessness’ along with intense feeling of ‘not enough’  is often acutely experienced by this class of folks too.  This was stunning to me. I must admit that it is a challenge for me to include this population in my compassionate thoughts.  I’m not there yet—but I’m working on it.  Great insight!

In the video below, Lynne recounts an amazing story  about how the negative energy of a particularly challenging  monetary meeting inspired her to take courageous action; action that was in alignment with her higher self.  This is one of the most powerful stories I have ever heard.  You might want to pass it along.

I encourage you to make a cup of tea, put your feet up and take a 15 minute power break and Watch Video Here

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Five Secret Ingredients for Manifesting Lasting Change…

Being a life-long student of human potential, I am passionate about discovering methods to achieve real change in life versus rearranging deck chairs on the titanic.  In my quest for body, mind and spirit wholeness, I have discovered three teachers that share timeless wisdom.  Neville Goddard,  Dr. Wayne Dyer and Dr. Joe Dispenza all have a similar message regarding  lasting change.

  1.  Begin with the end.  Visualize already having manifested your desired change.  Feel how you will feel   Desire it with full passion.  Train your mind to only focus on what you want—not on what you do not want or do not have.
  1. Add gratitude.  Gratitude is the motivating ‘glue’ that creates the transformational alchemy necessary for change.  Cultivating deep gratitude is the secret.  As Eric Butterworth,  legendary Unity pioneer tells us,  “gratitude is a causative energy, not a reactionary emotion.”
  1. Passion:  Do you desire your desire more than anything?  Is it the driving force in your life?  Can you feel, taste, smell and visualize it?
  1. Surrender: Let go of your attachment to outcome.  Your only job is to design it, visualize it and release it.  “This or something better…”
  1.   Meditate daily on already having achieved your intention.  Consistency is a big time game-changer.   Consistency is key.

What changes do you desire in your life so passionately that you are willing to exercise these 5 steps with consistency to make it happen?  Be honest.  If the answer is “nothing” that’s okay.  Just don’t torture yourself by saying that you really want something but you just can’t manifest it.    You absolutely can –if you follow the steps with consistency.

Watch Dr. Joe Dispenza on “How to Change Subconscious Programs”

This sounds pretty simple.  Then why don’t most folks achieve their desired life changes?  I’d love to hear from you.  Please comment below…

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—so that you can create a life you love! 

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How Self-Esteem Can Fail You

Self-esteem always seemed like the gold standard to me.  But it was conditional.  I told myself that I never did anything outstanding in my life—which made self-esteem completely out of reach for me.  It felt like I was always on the outside looking in…

Then, I found self-compassion.  You see, self-esteem is contingent upon success.  Whereas, the only ‘rule’ of self-compassion is to be kind to yourself. Self-compassion’s only demand is that we treat ourselves with the loving kindness that we give to our beloved pets and loved ones.  It sounds easy, doesn’t it?  Then, why is it so difficult?

Unfortunately, many of us were raised to believe that beating yourself up is good for you—that it somehow makes you a better person.  Or, “I screwed up so I deserve to trash myself.”  Nothing could be further from the truth.  Self- degradation is never helpful.  It releases stress hormones in your body that diminish your physical and mental health. It makes you feel ‘less than’ which often creates a cycle of depression and self-sabotage.

If you are new to the concept of self-compassion, I encourage you to listen to this powerful TEDx Talk on Self-Compassion.   Click Here

Happy Tapping,

Laurel

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—so that you can create a life you love! 

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Can You Guess What The Most Lethal Emotion Is?

Oprah, talk show superstar and rape survivor, says that for victims of abuse, their trauma is not about the sex it’s the shame that is so destructive.

Dr. Brene Brown, shame researcher, defines shame as that painful feeling that we all have that says we are unworthy of love and belonging.

What empowers our shame is our denial.  Any emotion that we push down into our ‘shadow’ (emotional cage) controls us.  It sabotages our ability to create the freedom and happiness we deserve.

So, what is the solution?  Transparency and empathy to the rescue.  Shame does not want to be outed! It does not want you to flex your courage muscle and admit that shame is in your face.  Shame does not want you to treat yourself like you would treat your beloved child if they came crying to you that they felt shameful.  Would you judge them and withhold love or would you empathize with them?  Empathy is lethal to shame.  It collapses the shame and opens the heart; whereas, judgment closes the heart and empowers the shame.

Here’s my challenge for you:  When you notice your shame rearing its head, invite it forward and give it empathy.  “Oh, there you are, shame.  Thank you for being so vigilant and protecting me. I give you all the space you need.” Counterintuitive as this may seem, it is one small step you can practice to erode shame’s grip.

Next time you catch yourself in an inner battle, turn it into empathy.  It’s the small steps you take with consistency that will collapse shame’s strong-hold over your life.  Ahh relief…

Listen to an amazing 4 minute chat with Oprah and Dr. Brene on Shame. Click here

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart.  Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom  from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease.  Go to:  www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for her blog.

 

 

 

The EFT “Tapping” Secret to Prevent Heart Disease

Joy is not a feeling.  It is the result of a relationship you have with your heart                                                             -Michael Brown, The Presence Process 

Enslavement by illusion is comfortable.  It is liberation by truth that people fear                                                            -David Hawkins, MD 

Honesty is the gold standard of our relationship with our heart.  The heart longs for honesty, at all cost.  Too often, however, honesty gets hijacked because we’re taught to push down painful, unwanted emotions.  This results in incubating shame and guilt—the grist of heart pain.  It also results in elaborate conflict as we attempt to distance from painful memories.  The heart, longing for simple honesty and acceptance now contracts with the heaviness of dishonesty and shame.  Is it any wonder that heart disease ranks highest in our mortality arena?

It is not the difficult emotions in your heart that cause your suffering.  Rather, it is the judgment or denial of these emotions that creates your pain.  We have so much fear around the territory of the heart that we treat it as a bogie-man.  The truth is that it is your cover up that causes dis-ease—which turns into disease.  Denial is infinitely more damaging than the courage of honesty.

EFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique)  is a safe and gentle method for you to begin to ‘cut the crap’ and explore your heart with respect and compassion.  It is your opportunity to experience those hidden feelings that you have pushed down due to guilt and shame.  With EFT, you get to allow these feelings to surface free of self-judgment.  Finally!

The secret to effective heart work is non-judgment and self acceptance.  You will find that when you are able to accept with compassion whatever you find in your heart—and just let it be—only then will it let you be.  The art of being with challenging emotions is the key to clearing their unrelenting grip on your life.

While this is not a practice for the casually curious, the tenacity of your heart honesty will reap you heart health in body, mind and spirit.

How To Watch Your Feelings here

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) Tapping and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart.  Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom  from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease.  Go to:  www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for her blog.

 

ARE YOU PART OF THE PROBLEM?

While I drove home yesterday, I was listening to the news. It was very negative.  I became aware that I was clenching the wheel and my body was tightening.  So, I immediately changed the channel to classical music and took a deep breath.  My entire body relaxed.  Ah, relief.

I caught myself as I was getting hooked into the collective thought-body of fear.  Unfortunately, fear is the predominant energy of this shared creation.  And, fear causes suffering.   Since the election, I have noticed fear snowballing in our country.  While it is easy to get seduced into this powerful cesspool,  with a little awareness, it’s also just as easy to bypass the invitation.  Awareness is the key.

Your thoughts count.  When you are in your heart, you send out loving thoughts to the planet.  But, when you are caught in fear, you add to the collective planetary snowball of fear.

Another practice I work on embracing is reminding myself that while I do not have to like what’s going on, it’s not my job to judge it.  Even though I’m not always successful, I’m getting better with practice.   I find myself clenching whenever I judge someone or something.  Just knowing that my thoughts count and either add to global fear or global peace motivates me to choose peace.

I invite you to join me….

Listen to Eckhart Tolle weigh in on fear and suffering

Tara Brach on The Power of Fearful Beliefs

 

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart.  Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom  from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease.  Go to:  www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for my blog.

 

Sufi New Year Blessing For You~

I send a Sufi blessing of peace and protection, success and prosperity, health and happiness to you and your loved ones…

I ask in the Name of the One to help us all to know
that our hearts are always cared for
that our every step is guided
that we need do nothing alone.
Help to open the way,
to reveal the path,
to make the signs
unmistakable.

I ask for nourishment, and support, in abundance for us all.
I ask that all of those who need the gifts that we’ve been given,
find their way to us
without blocks, or veils, or hesitations.

Make our provision easy.
I ask for love and healing.
For mercy and kindness.
For power and ability.
For gentleness and peace.
For strength and success.
For life, for justice,

I ask for love, and light.
For you and your loved ones in this new year

Peace and blessings~

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart.  Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom  from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease.  Go to:  www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for your 20-30 minute complimentary (no pressure) Discovery Call.

How To Resist Holiday Guilt

When we are busy blaming ourselves for our mistakes, we are not really holding ourselves accountable; we are, in fact, holding ourselves hostage…guilt keeps us small, “safely” tucked away from truly taking charge of our lives.  —Spiritual Bypassing by Robert Augustus Masters

People often employ guilt as a kind of balancing act.  “I know I’m indulging myself, but at least I feel guilty.” However, this is not really how it functions.  What guilt really does is give you permission to continue your self-sabotaging behavior.

For example, let’s look at an example of typical holiday guilt.  Imagine you feel guilty for excessive eating or drinking.  What guilt really does is excuse your behavior for a moment, to give you shaky permission to keep doing what you really do not want to do in the big picture.  Guilt becomes your currency or the price you pay to ‘play’.

Are you ready to break through your limiting thinking and transform your guilt? Try this.  Next time you are visited by the guilt-monster, instead of giving it power over you, revise your strategy by saying, “I give myself full permission to _______, guilt-free.  Really feel your discomfort without using guilt as your protection.

Taking guilt-free responsibility for your decisions will anchor desired change.   It may be easier than you imagine.  It just may be your best holiday present to yourself…

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart.  Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom  from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease.  Go to:  www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for your 20-30 minute complimentary (no pressure) Discovery Call.