All posts by Laurel Brookes

About Laurel Brookes

Life teaches us that everything in our past builds the foundation for where we are presently. Laurel’s life-long commitment to doing her own inner work, her background in Teaching, MS in Counseling, and a 25- year Energy Work Practice, has anchored her with the wisdom and expertise to gift others with this amazing transformational and heart-opening process. She received her Certification in EFT in 2011. She has also experienced Trauma Training, and Art of Feminine Presence Training. In order to open to universal healing energies, one must feel safe with their practitioner. Laurel has the ability, intuition and experience to assist clients through trust, to transmute disempowering patterns and limiting beliefs with this gentle, safe and highly effective process.

How Your Limiting Beliefs Protect You…

The thing about limiting beliefs is that they can be so much a part of your thinking that you often don’t know that you have them and certainly don’t ever question their authority over you.  Limiting beliefs are sometimes defined as the “don’ts, can’ts, won’ts, and shouldn’ts.  They keep your world small to protect you from stretching your comfort zone.

Do you realize that you think up to 70K thoughts per day.  Most of your thoughts are negative or memories of the past.  When a thought tries to escape the confines of your limited world, you quickly return it to its place with thoughts of can’t, won’t or shouldn’t.  This too can be a unconscious process to keep you tethered to your fear.

What if the good news is that you’re wrong.  If only one person in the world has successfully challenged their limiting beliefs to achieve a dream, that means that you can too!

But how, you ask…

Well, How badly do you want Your dream?

If you really don’t want it badly enough to put anything at stake, it’s probably not worth the effort to even think about– so you can stop wasting your precious thought energy on it.  Perhaps it’s just a ‘should’ that you can eliminate.

Why do you want it?

What’s driving you?  Is it to compensate for an inner lack or is it a passion calling to you?  Get clear on what your limiting beliefs are protecting and you just might find your answers.

 What are you willing to put at stake?

Your time?  Your money?  Your energy?  Your relationships?  Your life? The answer to this question will indicate how important it is to you to challenge and overcome your limiting beliefs.

Are you willing to fail? 

Failure is one of your best teachers.  You will learn more from failure than you will ever learn from success.  If you are willing to include failure as part of the journey without letting it stop you, you have a very good chance of overcoming your limiting beliefs.  Discouragement is often a partner to failure.  If you can also welcome discouragement– congratulations, you’re on your way.

What’s your relationship with patience?

Celebrating baby steps–two steps forward, one step back—gives the achievement of your goal a very healthy prognosis.

In summary, your limiting beliefs protect a small world inside of your comfort zone.  You can live in that box but there’s a lot more aliveness in the unknown.

Challenge yourself by changing one small thing daily.  Take a different route to work.  Make a new friend.  Try a food that you decided long ago that you didn’t like.  Learn something new by daily listening to one of You Tube’s million podcasts.

What about deeply seated limiting beliefs

You may need an intervention that bypasses the conscious mind to transform deeply ingrained patterns.  Hypnosis and/or Emotional Freedom Technique is a therapy that accesses higher states of mind in order to reprogram deeply held limiting beliefs.  Change your beliefs to change your world—one step at a time.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system.  This frees you to  create a life you love.  Go to www.EFTSoulPath to learn more or email Laurel Brookes at:  laurelb.EFT@gmail.com

Check out:  Change Your Beliefs, Change Your World  by Hannah Oyewole (9 minutes)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Fear of Joy

“The cultivation of gratitude and joy is the way home”  –Brene Brown

Have you ever noticed that inevitably what follows the feeling of  joy is fear of‘ ‘the other shoe dropping’.  This is driven by the fear that tells you  that this joyful feeling  can’t last.  Wham!  Joy evaporates into the wet blanket syndrome.  Gone.  Fear of joy sounds crazy.  But, we really buy into it.   With a feeble attempt at self-protection, we let fear win.  Another way we mask joy is more subtle but powerful.  We don’t feel worthy of joy.  Joy feels so light that it’s almost kind of scary.   “Who am I to feel this good,” guilt scolds.

The new energies that are birthing on earth call us to be our highest expression.  They invite us to birth joy.  And, joy has a soulmate called gratitude.  It’s a package deal.  Joyful people are always grateful people.

I am discovering that the more I practice gratitude for the little things in my life:  a warm comfy bed, hot cup of tea, birds singing, sunshine and rain,  joy seems to slip in also.  Joy appears as a warm and gentle feeling of well-being that calls me deeply into the present moment with the intoxicating contentment of complete fulfillment.  Ahhh, I’m home.

Cultivating joy and gratitude is a practice.  It doesn’t just happen.  I invite you to be mindful of noticing that it is your choice to call in joy and gratitude.  This awareness alone shifts your focus from what’s wrong to what’s right.  It creates a download of feel-good chemicals that make your heart and your brain sync together. This, in turn, reduces stress.  Simply but powerfully It changes your life little by little.

I would like to share  this conversation between Oprah and Dr. Brene Brown with you,  “Joy:  It’s Terrifying,”   Brene is a highly  gifted speaker—one of my favorites.  Listen and you’ll know why.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—this frees you to  create a life you love…
Schedule a complimentary discovery call now, email Laurel Brookes at:  laurelb.EFT@gmail.com

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The Best Christmas Gift You Can Ever Give Yourself

The holidays can be a time of mega busyness–which can result in big stress and little enjoyment of this precious and opportune heart-opening time.  In reality,Every day  invites you to live each moment as a priceless gift. Only you get to decide how you will live this gift. The ‘crazy-busy’ distraction holds a powerful Time-Out  message for those who care to live life more enjoyably.   This is what your Time-Out might look like:

  • Get away. Go off by yourself to your car, bedroom, bathroom  or walk in nature.
  • Breathe: Focus on deepening your breath and following it as it enters your body.  Breathe it down to your belly.  Breathe slowly several times with focused awareness.  This simple exercise will help bring you back to the present moment, calming your nerves and your monkey-mind.
  • Gather all of your thoughts of worry, fear and anxiety and visualize dropping them down your body into the earth as you invite beautiful white light and/or color to enter your crown (top of head) spilling into every cell in your body.
  • Keep breathing in the peace of this light and/or color until you can feel calm radiating throughout your entire body.
  • Only from this place of calm will you actually be able to feel your greatest gift– gratitude. Welcome and embrace your gratitude. Give it space. Tissue Alert!

You have just centered yourself, bringing your heart and brain into coherency.  From this space you will be able to think more clearly and enjoy the love of the season and the gift of today…

Merry Christmas ~

I’m including this profound 6 minute life-changing gratitude inspiration as my holiday gift to you..      Gratitude Video click here

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—this frees you to  create a life you love!
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How You Create The Magic of Gratitude…

Gratitude is a causative energy, not a reactionary emotion~                                                                                                                                                     -Eric Butterworth

This powerful quote by a Unity Movement legend,  is one of my favorites–one that has stuck with me through the years.  Thanksgiving season seems like an appropriate time of year to focus on deepening your gratitude practice.

While it’s normal to use gratitude as a reactionary emotion when someone does something helpful for you, the real power of gratitude lies in using it as a constant mantra in your life.  This practice deepens gratitude’s  power to enrich your life in ways you could never have created through force.  Dr. Joe Dispenza, neuro scientist and metaphysician says that gratitude means that it’s already happened.  As co-creator of your life, in order to consciously manifest your inspiration, you must pair your desire with the emotion of gratitude.  For gratitude is creative magic!

In order to awaken gratitude in your heart, try holding  your beloved pet or a photo of someone you love.  Beam love at them from your heart.  Now, call in the energy of gratitude.  Feel how gratitude feels. Give it love and space.  Expand your gratitude circle daily.  Consistently done, this practice will deepen your appreciation  and joy of life…

A more challenging practice is to express gratitude for the things that you aren’t grateful for.  Having gratitude doesn’t mean that you necessarily like what’s happened, it means that you accept what is.  Used in this way, gratitude can be a means of transmuting your suffering.

I am happy to share a favorite part of my daily gratitude practice with you.  I must admit that it’s the fastest 6 minutes of my day.  Caution:  Tissue alert…

Watch Gratitude Video HERE

Have a happy and grateful Thanksgiving…

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—so that you can create a life you love!
Schedule a complimentary discovery call now, email Laurel Brookes at:  laurelb.EFT@gmail.com

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The Most Profound Gift You Can Give Another

The most profound gift we can give one another is our attention~

I don’t know said this but I love it.  I recall my first experience of feeling fully attended to.  It was when I saw a counselor in my early 20’s.  I will always remember how he gave me his undivided attention.  I felt like the most important person in his world.  I can’t even recall what he said to me.  His words were eclipsed by his rapt attention.  This experience of being received fully has had a deep and profound effect on my life and the way I listen to others.

In my desire to emulate this skill of attentive listening, I have become aware of

Ineffective Listening Skills:

  • Half-hearted listening for a pause to talk
  • Interrupting—‘the cardinal sin’
  • Listening to disagree or argue
  • Listening to ‘make-wrong’
  • Listening to give advice
  • Listening to one-up
  • And the list goes on and on….

Effective Listening Skills:

  • Being aware of the value of the gift of your presence
  • Making eye contact
  • Giving your undivided attention
  • Letting go of your agenda
  • Pausing before you respond
  • Being in non-judgment
  • Affirming the speaker to indicate that you have been listening
  • Knowing that it is not your job to solve their problem–your

only job is to hold a space of compassion and acceptance for them.

I challenge you to practice the skill of being an effective listener.  Be patient..  You might even notice a positive effect upon your relationships…

Watch “The Power of Listening” by Wm Ury .  CLICK HERE

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—this frees you to  create a life you love!
Schedule a complimentary discovery call now, email Laurel Brookes at:  laurelb.EFT@gmail.com

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How The ‘Rejection Trap’ Affects Your Life

Everyone fears rejection.  We each find our own way of coping with these or similar situations:

  • If you grew up with or are married to a critical authority figure
  • If you were bullied or made fun of in school
  • If you avoid relationships because you were dumped
  • If your supervisor or coworkers demean you

Rejection hurts deeply.  It’s understandable that you will do just about anything to avoid it. But…

  • Imagine feeling empowered even though someone is criticizing you.
  • Imagine not having to react to others’ careless remarks
  • Imagine responding calmly to button-pushers
  • Imagine avoiding taking the bait in the first place

The next time someone says something potentially hurtful to you, here are 5 strategies, outlined by Marisa Peer, best-selling author and motivational speaker, to AVOID the rejection trap:

  1. “Thank you for sharing.  Your opinion is noted.” Calmly deliver this powerful response non-defensively.  You will find that this dissipates the tension.
  2. “I’m sorry, could you repeat that please”  This unlikely response gives them pause to reflect upon their words.  90% of the time they will think about and retract what they said.  Again, don’t take it in. Stay calm.
  3. “Are you trying to be hurtful?”  Again, your non-defensive demeanor will give them pause to reflect and clarify their intention behind their words.
  4. Calmly and simply state, “I’m not going to let that in.”
  5. Evenly reply, “Did you know that critical people don’t like themselves. They are outwardly projecting their own personal dissatisfaction.  When they do this, they are showing everyone that they are their own worse critic.”  This confident delivery empowers you.

Visualize the insults coming at you like a tennis match.  Hit the ball back quickly with skill and confidence before it touches your body.  These techniques only work if you stay non-defensive.   Don’t take the insult in.  If you discipline yourself to respond vs react, you will find the strategies highly effective.

Have fun practicing this new challenge.  Along with being happier and less stressed, it may even save your life, your marriage or your job.  Worth the work?  Definitely.  Try it and see for yourself…

How To Avoid Rejection. Click Here

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—this frees you to  create a life you love!
Schedule a complimentary discovery call now, email Laurel Brookes at:  laurelb.EFT@gmail.com

  • If you grew up with a critical authority figure
  • If you were bullied or made fun of in school
  • If you avoid relationships because you were dumped
  • If your supervisor or coworkers demean you

If you find yourself avoiding connection with others as a means of self-protection, that’s a pretty good indication that you have probably internalized other people’s rejection of you.  Rejection hurts deeply.  It’s understandable that you will do anything to avoid it.

The good news is that there are ways to avoid taking in rejection in the first place.

The next time someone says something potentially hurtful to you, here are 5 strategies to AVOID internalizing the rejection:

  1. “Thank you for sharing.  Your opinion is noted.”

Calmly deliver this powerful response non-defensively.  You will find that this dissipates the tension.

  1. “I’m sorry, could you repeat that please”  This unlikely response gives them pause to reflect upon their words.  90% of the time they will think about and retract what they said.  Again, don’t take it in. Stay calm.

 

  1. “Are you trying to be hurtful?”  Again, your non-defensive demeanor will give them pause to reflect and clarify their intention behind their words.

 

  1. Calmly and simply state, “I’m not going to let that in.”

 

  1. Evenly reply, “Did you know that critical people don’t like themselves. They are outwardly projecting their own personal dissatisfaction.  When they do this, they are showing everyone that they are their own worse critic.”  This confident delivery empowers you.

You might visualize the insults coming at you as a tennis match.  Hit the ball back quickly with  skill and confidence.  These  techniques only work if you stay non-defensive.   Don’t take the bait.  If you discipline yourself to respond vs react, you will find the strategies are highly effective.

Have fun practicing this new challenge.  Along with being happier and less stressed, it may even save your life, your marriage or your job.

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How Selfish Are You?

Putting yourself first has gotten a bad rap because it’s so often equated with being selfish.  As ‘ good Christians’  we’ve been brainwashed to believe that self-love and heaven just don’t mix! Actually, I think the concept of self-empowerment or self-love was just a bit too threatening for the good old boy’s club–just my opinion!  You laugh, but these beliefs are deeply embedded in our psyches. As much as we’d like to deny them,  old remnants remain.

I would like to clarify the distinction.  Self-love is self-empowerment.  I believe this is what we’re here on earth to learn and to teach.  Self-love means that you value your worth as a spiritual being having a human experience.  Self-love means that you realize that you must put your oxygen mask on first.  Self-love is  our highest expression, our highest privilege and our highest responsibility.

Self-Love Implies:

  • I treat myself like I would treat a favorite loved one: adult, child or pet
  • I speak only words of love and support to myself
  • I give myself plenty rest, sleep and a good diet
  • I maintain good boundaries with others
  • I know my “no’s” and I know my “yeses”
  • I am authentic. I speak up for myself
  • If you don’t approve of me, it’s not my business

Lack of Self-Love (selfish) Implies:

  • I put others before me because I fear they won’t like me
  • My words and actions are often fueled by ‘not good enough’
  • I feel like I have something to prove
  • I secretly carry the belief that if others knew me they wouldn’t like me
  • I should sacrifice because that’s what I was taught
  • Hard work makes me a worthy person
  • I get ‘points’ in heaven for being a martyr
  • To be unworthy qualifies me for ‘Sainthood’
  • That I can blame then incubate resentment
  • At the heart of my giving is the belief that I am not enough.

I invite you to have fun with this as you examine which beliefs resonate with you.  Don’t beat yourself up about it.  Just use your best sense of humor.  Remember, you can’t change what you don’t acknowledge.

Listen to “Why You Should Put Yourself First” with Oprah and Iyania VanZant

Loving yourself is a practice and a process.  Know that it is often two steps forward and one step back.  That’s okay.  Just remember to resist beating yourself up when you fall on your face.  Give yourself  kudos and chose again.

Self love is a great topic to tap on.  Please email me if you would love help getting started.  I’m here for you…

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What Price Do You Pay For Your Busyness?

Busyness is a boast disguised as a complaint…”  Tim Kreider 

Have you noticed how busy everyone is these days?  While it’s absolutely true that we have a lot to fit in to our schedule, it seems we’ve taken our busyness to a whole new level.  We wear it like a badge of self-importance.  The one with the busiest life wins!  It’s as if our self-identity is wrapped around having a ridiculously over-scheduled life.

Busyness questions to ask self:

  • Has busyness gotten in the way of spending quality time with your loved ones?
  • Does busyness keep you in constant adrenaline mode?
  • Do you have trouble being alone?
  • Are you chronically tired and mask exhaustion with caffeine and sugar?
  • Does it keep you plugged into your distractions and addictions?
  • Do you have trouble thinking clearly and making good decisions?
  • Does it affect your sleep?
  • How does busyness affect your health?
  • Do you feel guilty when you’re not busy?
  • Do you believe that doing is more important than being?

The real deal quick fixes…

If you want to be a recovering busy-a-holic, here are a few tips:

  • Become aware of how you’re breathing. Deepen your breath.  Sigh audibly.  This decompresses and resets  your entire nervous system.
  • Walk and speak more slowly.
  • Engage in less multi-tasking.
  • Eat more slowly with intention. Bless and be grateful for your food.
  • Drive like you have all the time and patience in the world.
  • Unplug and enjoy a quiet walking meditation in nature. Leave your problems behind.  You just may be surprised at the clarity you receive.
  • Watch TV very selectively. Do not watch the news before bed.  It contains powerful negative downloads

Giving yourself alone time is crucial.  It’s in these priceless alone and unscheduled moments that you can deeply listen to that still small voice within that is dying to be heard and acknowledged by you.

I challenge you to get really busy doing nothing.    It may feel really weird at first.  But in the long run, you might notice that your ability to enjoy your life increases significantly—just by being willing to say “no” to that busyness monster.

Watch “The Busy Identity” by Lexie Harvey.  9 minute Ted Talk  click here

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—so that you can create a life you love! 

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Why Is Your Inner Child Running the Show?

We all have an inner child who holds our unwanted (shadow) emotions. You know,  all the emotions we’re taught to be ashamed of and push down.  And, like all kids, he/she just wants your attention.  If the child doesn’t get your attention, they will throw a fit until you acknowledge them.  EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a simple and highly effective therapy for working with our inner children in a respectful way.  Here are the simplified steps:

  1. You begin with the end. Ask yourself how you want to feel?  Example: peace. Therefore, peace would be your intended outcome.
  1. Identify what’s in the way; in other words, what do you feel now.  Example: anger.
  1. Engage the anger fully by giving love to your inner angry child while tapping. Give them the space to feel exactly how they feel.  This is not about blame.  Counterintuitive as it may seem to honor your angry inner child, that’s exactly where you’ll find the freedom you’re seeking.  Our inner child just wants our love and attention.  When you let them  be, they will also let you be.
  1. After the emotion has subsided, now is the time to tap on your intended outcome.  This strengthens and internalizes your goals and intentions.

It is my observation that the reason we get bogged down in the  swamp of complicated emotion is because we’re taught to judge and bury our emotions rather than honoring them.  I have taught EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to many clients, helping  them to free themselves from unwanted emotional baggage.

If you want support in freeing your inner child, let EFTSoulPath guide you on your journey to self-love so that you can begin to create a life you love.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—so that you can create a life you love! 

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Does the Energy Behind Money Really Matter?

Many folks believe that money is just money.  Right?  Maybe there’s more to this belief than meets the eye…  I am eager to present to you this extraordinary Ted Talk by Lynne Twist, global activist and author of the life-changing book,  ‘Soul of Money’.

My take-aways from Lynne’s profound  book are:

  • To adopt an ‘enough’ attitude. So much of my life has been driven by not enough. From the time I awaken:  ‘not enough sleep, not enough time, not enough money.’  These unconscious beliefs lay the groundwork for high-level stress and anxiety, along with attracting more ‘not enough’ in my life.  I’m gaining freedom by examining my ‘not enough’s’ and changing them to gratitude for ‘always enough’ no matter what appearances may look like at the time.
  • To refrain from labeling folks as ‘poor’. While there are many folks who live in substandard circumstances, these conditions have taught people to be strong and resilient, faith-filled and trusting.  Labeling folks ‘poor’ is demeaning to them and to me.
  • As a global fund raiser, Ms. Twist has worked with the very wealthy. She explains how loneliness, isolation and ‘soullessness’ along with intense feeling of ‘not enough’  is often acutely experienced by this class of folks too.  This was stunning to me. I must admit that it is a challenge for me to include this population in my compassionate thoughts.  I’m not there yet—but I’m working on it.  Great insight!

In the video below, Lynne recounts an amazing story  about how the negative energy of a particularly challenging  monetary meeting inspired her to take courageous action; action that was in alignment with her higher self.  This is one of the most powerful stories I have ever heard.  You might want to pass it along.

I encourage you to make a cup of tea, put your feet up and take a 15 minute power break and Watch Video Here

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—so that you can create a life you love! 

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