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How Your Limiting Beliefs Protect You…

The thing about limiting beliefs is that they can be so much a part of your thinking that you often don’t know that you have them and certainly don’t ever question their authority over you.  Limiting beliefs are sometimes defined as the “don’ts, can’ts, won’ts, and shouldn’ts.  They keep your world small to protect you from stretching your comfort zone.

Do you realize that you think up to 70K thoughts per day.  Most of your thoughts are negative or memories of the past.  When a thought tries to escape the confines of your limited world, you quickly return it to its place with thoughts of can’t, won’t or shouldn’t.  This too can be a unconscious process to keep you tethered to your fear.

What if the good news is that you’re wrong.  If only one person in the world has successfully challenged their limiting beliefs to achieve a dream, that means that you can too!

But how, you ask…

Well, How badly do you want Your dream?

If you really don’t want it badly enough to put anything at stake, it’s probably not worth the effort to even think about– so you can stop wasting your precious thought energy on it.  Perhaps it’s just a ‘should’ that you can eliminate.

Why do you want it?

What’s driving you?  Is it to compensate for an inner lack or is it a passion calling to you?  Get clear on what your limiting beliefs are protecting and you just might find your answers.

 What are you willing to put at stake?

Your time?  Your money?  Your energy?  Your relationships?  Your life? The answer to this question will indicate how important it is to you to challenge and overcome your limiting beliefs.

Are you willing to fail? 

Failure is one of your best teachers.  You will learn more from failure than you will ever learn from success.  If you are willing to include failure as part of the journey without letting it stop you, you have a very good chance of overcoming your limiting beliefs.  Discouragement is often a partner to failure.  If you can also welcome discouragement– congratulations, you’re on your way.

What’s your relationship with patience?

Celebrating baby steps–two steps forward, one step back—gives the achievement of your goal a very healthy prognosis.

In summary, your limiting beliefs protect a small world inside of your comfort zone.  You can live in that box but there’s a lot more aliveness in the unknown.

Challenge yourself by changing one small thing daily.  Take a different route to work.  Make a new friend.  Try a food that you decided long ago that you didn’t like.  Learn something new by daily listening to one of You Tube’s million podcasts.

What about deeply seated limiting beliefs

You may need an intervention that bypasses the conscious mind to transform deeply ingrained patterns.  Hypnosis and/or Emotional Freedom Technique is a therapy that accesses higher states of mind in order to reprogram deeply held limiting beliefs.  Change your beliefs to change your world—one step at a time.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system.  This frees you to  create a life you love.  Go to www.EFTSoulPath to learn more or email Laurel Brookes at:  laurelb.EFT@gmail.com

Check out:  Change Your Beliefs, Change Your World  by Hannah Oyewole (9 minutes)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Fear of Joy

“The cultivation of gratitude and joy is the way home”  –Brene Brown

Have you ever noticed that inevitably what follows the feeling of  joy is fear of‘ ‘the other shoe dropping’.  This is driven by the fear that tells you  that this joyful feeling  can’t last.  Wham!  Joy evaporates into the wet blanket syndrome.  Gone.  Fear of joy sounds crazy.  But, we really buy into it.   With a feeble attempt at self-protection, we let fear win.  Another way we mask joy is more subtle but powerful.  We don’t feel worthy of joy.  Joy feels so light that it’s almost kind of scary.   “Who am I to feel this good,” guilt scolds.

The new energies that are birthing on earth call us to be our highest expression.  They invite us to birth joy.  And, joy has a soulmate called gratitude.  It’s a package deal.  Joyful people are always grateful people.

I am discovering that the more I practice gratitude for the little things in my life:  a warm comfy bed, hot cup of tea, birds singing, sunshine and rain,  joy seems to slip in also.  Joy appears as a warm and gentle feeling of well-being that calls me deeply into the present moment with the intoxicating contentment of complete fulfillment.  Ahhh, I’m home.

Cultivating joy and gratitude is a practice.  It doesn’t just happen.  I invite you to be mindful of noticing that it is your choice to call in joy and gratitude.  This awareness alone shifts your focus from what’s wrong to what’s right.  It creates a download of feel-good chemicals that make your heart and your brain sync together. This, in turn, reduces stress.  Simply but powerfully It changes your life little by little.

I would like to share  this conversation between Oprah and Dr. Brene Brown with you,  “Joy:  It’s Terrifying,”   Brene is a highly  gifted speaker—one of my favorites.  Listen and you’ll know why.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—this frees you to  create a life you love…
Schedule a complimentary discovery call now, email Laurel Brookes at:  laurelb.EFT@gmail.com

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The Best Christmas Gift You Can Ever Give Yourself

The holidays can be a time of mega busyness–which can result in big stress and little enjoyment of this precious and opportune heart-opening time.  In reality,Every day  invites you to live each moment as a priceless gift. Only you get to decide how you will live this gift. The ‘crazy-busy’ distraction holds a powerful Time-Out  message for those who care to live life more enjoyably.   This is what your Time-Out might look like:

  • Get away. Go off by yourself to your car, bedroom, bathroom  or walk in nature.
  • Breathe: Focus on deepening your breath and following it as it enters your body.  Breathe it down to your belly.  Breathe slowly several times with focused awareness.  This simple exercise will help bring you back to the present moment, calming your nerves and your monkey-mind.
  • Gather all of your thoughts of worry, fear and anxiety and visualize dropping them down your body into the earth as you invite beautiful white light and/or color to enter your crown (top of head) spilling into every cell in your body.
  • Keep breathing in the peace of this light and/or color until you can feel calm radiating throughout your entire body.
  • Only from this place of calm will you actually be able to feel your greatest gift– gratitude. Welcome and embrace your gratitude. Give it space. Tissue Alert!

You have just centered yourself, bringing your heart and brain into coherency.  From this space you will be able to think more clearly and enjoy the love of the season and the gift of today…

Merry Christmas ~

I’m including this profound 6 minute life-changing gratitude inspiration as my holiday gift to you..      Gratitude Video click here

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—this frees you to  create a life you love!
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How Selfish Are You?

Putting yourself first has gotten a bad rap because it’s so often equated with being selfish.  As ‘ good Christians’  we’ve been brainwashed to believe that self-love and heaven just don’t mix! Actually, I think the concept of self-empowerment or self-love was just a bit too threatening for the good old boy’s club–just my opinion!  You laugh, but these beliefs are deeply embedded in our psyches. As much as we’d like to deny them,  old remnants remain.

I would like to clarify the distinction.  Self-love is self-empowerment.  I believe this is what we’re here on earth to learn and to teach.  Self-love means that you value your worth as a spiritual being having a human experience.  Self-love means that you realize that you must put your oxygen mask on first.  Self-love is  our highest expression, our highest privilege and our highest responsibility.

Self-Love Implies:

  • I treat myself like I would treat a favorite loved one: adult, child or pet
  • I speak only words of love and support to myself
  • I give myself plenty rest, sleep and a good diet
  • I maintain good boundaries with others
  • I know my “no’s” and I know my “yeses”
  • I am authentic. I speak up for myself
  • If you don’t approve of me, it’s not my business

Lack of Self-Love (selfish) Implies:

  • I put others before me because I fear they won’t like me
  • My words and actions are often fueled by ‘not good enough’
  • I feel like I have something to prove
  • I secretly carry the belief that if others knew me they wouldn’t like me
  • I should sacrifice because that’s what I was taught
  • Hard work makes me a worthy person
  • I get ‘points’ in heaven for being a martyr
  • To be unworthy qualifies me for ‘Sainthood’
  • That I can blame then incubate resentment
  • At the heart of my giving is the belief that I am not enough.

I invite you to have fun with this as you examine which beliefs resonate with you.  Don’t beat yourself up about it.  Just use your best sense of humor.  Remember, you can’t change what you don’t acknowledge.

Listen to “Why You Should Put Yourself First” with Oprah and Iyania VanZant

Loving yourself is a practice and a process.  Know that it is often two steps forward and one step back.  That’s okay.  Just remember to resist beating yourself up when you fall on your face.  Give yourself  kudos and chose again.

Self love is a great topic to tap on.  Please email me if you would love help getting started.  I’m here for you…

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Thank-You, Donald Trump…

Our recent Presidential election can be seen as a wake-up call of the highest order.  Had Hillary Clinton clinched the deal, many speculate that things would be business as usual and we could have continued sleep-walking through life.  Not so with our current President-elect, Donald Trump.  While it is easy to project our power on the President and expect trickle-down change, we’ve all seen the dismal results this approach delivers.  I propose a radical idea that actually, I cannot claim: Change begins with you and me.  Yes, change starts with grass-roots.  It’s bottom up.  Never, top down.  That’s us, folks.

Funny how we fall for this wishful thinking scam every four years when we buy into corporate marketing thinly disguised as campaign promises. Mr. Snowden reminds us to be cautious about putting too much faith or fear in a President.  Candidates say whatever they think will win them the election.  We know this.  Yet, we still continue to fall for it.  We continue to be angry and disappointed when it doesn’t work.  We forget that it never works–because the real work is our job.  Change begins with you and me.

Given that life is a mirror, our President reflects our individual consciousness.  It seems we’ve got a lot of work to do ahead.  Where to begin?  Perhaps with self-reflection:  Where am I prejudiced? How am I self-absorbed?  Where might I lack compassion?  How am I manipulative?  Where can I practice a little more kindness?  Perhaps it is time for us to take a ‘fearless moral inventory’ and stop looking to a political figure to do it for us.  Along with transforming our inner landscape, here are some ways you can you use your energy for positive outcome in the world:

*Empower Yourself

Get involved in politics at a local level.  Help get progressives elected.  Our local elections influence our lives more than national elections do.  It’s a great place to put your energy.  Knowing that you are doing your part is an awesome feeling.

*Stay Present in the Moment

How Will You Know?  When you’re feeling anxious or fearful, let that be a reminder that you have slipped out of the now.  Avoid ‘chicken-little’ thinking.  Breathe.  Come back to the moment.  It will restore your perspective.

*Be Curious About Your Charges

When you get triggered by other opinions, take the high road.  Teach respect by your actions.  Remember that you do not need agreement from anyone.  When you get activated by the news, put down the article or turn off the TV.  Breathe.  Ask yourself what inside is being activated from your own life?  Find the message it may hold for you. 

*Reset Often

Imagine and hold your desired outcome.  Imagination is more powerful than thought.  Visualize the world you want to live in and remember to be the change you want to see in the world.  “Let there be peace on earth, and let it begin with me,” is our golden opportunity at this critical time in history.  Imagine what we could create together…

To get Wendy Kennedy’s perspective on the election:  click here to view You Tube link

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart.  Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom  from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease.  Go to:  www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for your 20 minute complimentary (no pressure) Discovery Call.

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Why Vulnerability is Your Greatest Strength

A popular belief in our society is that vulnerability equals weakness.  I admit that I was once a member of that club.  But, Oprah credits her success to her willingness to be vulnerable—to show up and be seen.

Years ago I taught a class at a local massage school.  I usually pride myself on my teaching ability.  However, this class was a disaster!  I remember a woman named Rosie from that class.  The reason I remember her is that it seems like I ran into her everywhere.  It seems that Rosie showed up as a constant reminder of my failure. Every time I saw her, I’d hide my head and run.  She was a reminder from the Universe that I pushed down and ignored.  One day a friend invited me to a seminar.  You can guess who the teacher was.  Yup, Rosie!  I decided that it was time to face my demons.  When I walked in, Rosie gave me a polite smile.  I cringed.  Then I walked right up to her and blurted out, “Rosie, I have a confession to make.  Every time I see you, I hide in shame because years ago you were in my class that I bombed.  You are a constant reminder of how badly I did. I’m tired of giving my shame power over me and that’s why I need to say this.  Thanks for listening.” She looked at me with bewilderment and quietly stated, “sorry, I don’t remember any class but you do look familiar.”  In that moment, we both laughed together.  All my shame vanished. Abracadabra!  It was magical.  My courage to be vulnerable freed my shame.

Secrets erode our well-being.  I wonder how many folks resist asking for support because they are slaves to their shameful secrets.  They fear judgment.  I invite you to examine what you are hiding and where you could risk being more courageous and vulnerable.  You just might love the freedom it brings you!

Listen in on a 4 minute conversation between Oprah and Dr. Brene Brown on vulnerability and courage.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fi0IEOBDRpQ

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart.  Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom  from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease.  Go to:  www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for your 20 minute complimentary (no pressure) Discovery Call.