Why Folks Blow New Year’s Resolutions and How Not To
It’s that time again. Many folks make new year’s resolutions but few keep them.
How about calling it what it really is. Self- love. Let’s dissect this a bit. The thought behind even bothering to set a resolution is to create a condition that makes you feel better about yourself, right? Being more self-loving is the highest practice you can create to enhance the quality of your life. It must be at the top of your list. If it’s not, little else matters.
Now, let’s look at the
basics at becoming more self-loving:
Decide to be happy no matter what
Think only empowering
thoughts about yourself
Only speak to
yourself as lovingly as you would speak to a beloved child or pet
responsibility for everything in your life.
Retire your victim
when you blow 1-4—because you will…
If 1-5 is not at the top of your list, failure is pretty
much guaranteed. And, you’re still
Happy New Year!
Please share in the comments below how you plan to practice more self-love in the new year
The thing about limiting beliefs is that they can be so much a part of your thinking that you often don’t know that you have them and certainly don’t ever question their authority over you. Limiting beliefs are sometimes defined as the “don’ts, can’ts, won’ts, and shouldn’ts. They keep your world small to protect you from stretching your comfort zone.
Do you realize that you think up to 70K thoughts per day. Most of your thoughts are negative or memories of the past. When a thought tries to escape the confines of your limited world, you quickly return it to its place with thoughts of can’t, won’t or shouldn’t. This too can be a unconscious process to keep you tethered to your fear.
What if the good news is that you’re wrong. If only one person in the world has successfully challenged their limiting beliefs to achieve a dream, that means that you can too!
But how, you ask…
Well, How badly do you want Your dream?
If you really don’t want it badly enough to put anything at stake, it’s probably not worth the effort to even think about– so you can stop wasting your precious thought energy on it. Perhaps it’s just a ‘should’ that you can eliminate.
Why do you want it?
What’s driving you? Is it to compensate for an inner lack or is it a passion calling to you? Get clear on what your limiting beliefs are protecting and you just might find your answers.
What are you willing to put at stake?
Your time? Your money? Your energy? Your relationships? Your life? The answer to this question will indicate how important it is to you to challenge and overcome your limiting beliefs.
Are you willing to fail?
Failure is one of your best teachers. You will learn more from failure than you will ever learn from success. If you are willing to include failure as part of the journey without letting it stop you, you have a very good chance of overcoming your limiting beliefs. Discouragement is often a partner to failure. If you can also welcome discouragement– congratulations, you’re on your way.
What’s your relationship with patience?
Celebrating baby steps–two steps forward, one step back—gives the achievement of your goal a very healthy prognosis.
In summary, your limiting beliefs protect a small world inside of your comfort zone. You can live in that box but there’s a lot more aliveness in the unknown.
Challenge yourself by changing one small thing daily. Take a different route to work. Make a new friend. Try a food that you decided long ago that you didn’t like. Learn something new by daily listening to one of You Tube’s million podcasts.
What about deeply seated limiting beliefs
You may need an intervention that bypasses the conscious mind to transform deeply ingrained patterns. Hypnosis and/or Emotional Freedom Technique is a therapy that accesses higher states of mind in order to reprogram deeply held limiting beliefs. Change your beliefs to change your world—one step at a time.
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system. This frees you to create a life you love. Go to www.EFTSoulPath to learn more or email Laurel Brookes at: laurelb.EFT@gmail.com
Check out: Change Your Beliefs, Change Your World by Hannah Oyewole (9 minutes)
We all have an inner child who holds our unwanted (shadow) emotions. You know, all the emotions we’re taught to be ashamed of and push down. And, like all kids, he/she just wants your attention. If the child doesn’t get your attention, they will throw a fit until you acknowledge them. EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a simple and highly effective therapy for working with our inner children in a respectful way. Here are the simplified steps:
You begin with the end. Ask yourself how you want to feel? Example: peace. Therefore, peace would be your intended outcome.
Identify what’s in the way; in other words, what do you feel now. Example: anger.
Engage the anger fully by giving love to your inner angry child while tapping. Give them the space to feel exactly how they feel. This is not about blame. Counterintuitive as it may seem to honor your angry inner child, that’s exactly where you’ll find the freedom you’re seeking. Our inner child just wants our love and attention. When you let them be, they will also let you be.
After the emotion has subsided, now is the time to tap on your intended outcome. This strengthens and internalizes your goals and intentions.
It is my observation that the reason we get bogged down in the swamp of complicated emotion is because we’re taught to judge and bury our emotions rather than honoring them. I have taught EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to many clients, helping them to free themselves from unwanted emotional baggage.
If you want support in freeing your inner child, let EFTSoulPath guide you on your journey to self-love so that you can begin to create a life you love.
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—so that you can create a life you love!
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While I drove home yesterday, I was listening to the news. It was very negative. I became aware that I was clenching the wheel and my body was tightening. So, I immediately changed the channel to classical music and took a deep breath. My entire body relaxed. Ah, relief.
I caught myself as I was getting hooked into the collective thought-body of fear. Unfortunately, fear is the predominant energy of this shared creation. And, fear causes suffering. Since the election, I have noticed fear snowballing in our country. While it is easy to get seduced into this powerful cesspool, with a little awareness, it’s also just as easy to bypass the invitation. Awareness is the key.
Your thoughts count. When you are in your heart, you send out loving thoughts to the planet. But, when you are caught in fear, you add to the collective planetary snowball of fear.
Another practice I work on embracing is reminding myself that while I do not have to like what’s going on, it’s not my job to judge it. Even though I’m not always successful, I’m getting better with practice. I find myself clenching whenever I judge someone or something. Just knowing that my thoughts count and either add to global fear or global peace motivates me to choose peace.
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart. Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease. Go to: www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for my blog.
I send a Sufi blessing of peace and protection, success and prosperity, health and happiness to you and your loved ones…
I ask in the Name of the One to help us all to know
that our hearts are always cared for
that our every step is guided
that we need do nothing alone.
Help to open the way, to reveal the path,
to make the signs
I ask for nourishment, and support, in abundance for us all.
I ask that all of those who need the gifts that we’ve been given,
find their way to us
without blocks, or veils, or hesitations.
Make our provision easy.
I ask for love and healing.
For mercy and kindness.
For power and ability.
For gentleness and peace.
For strength and success.
For life, for justice,
I ask for love, and light.
For you and your loved ones in this new year
Peace and blessings~
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart. Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease. Go to: www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for your 20-30 minute complimentary (no pressure) Discovery Call.
I find it useful to reflect upon the regrets of the dying. Perhaps they’ve learned some wisdom that we can apply today. In my research, without exception, the top regret of those preparing for their journey home is, “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.” Isn’t hindsight a wonderful thing?
This begs the question, why do we work so hard?
I think it goes way beyond the economic piece that gets tons of legitimacy. Our culture has bought into the myth that if I work hard, I’m somehow a better person. We speak of ‘lazy and unmotivated’ folks with great disdain. Also, have you ever noticed the self-importance people seem to communicate when they tell you how busy their schedule is? It’s as if busyness is a badge of honor and success—or at least being a member of the in-club.
Many folks seem to have work tied to self-worth. The harder I work, the more valuable I am.
Work also serves as the perfect distraction. If I’m driven by my work, I not only get lots of kudos from other people, I get a huge and credible excuse that keeps me from looking within—or just being with myself. Just being with me sounds boring and scary. Free time is unacceptable. But I probably won’t admit that!
Over working can also be a slippery excuse for justifying our many and various addictions. “I worked so hard today, I deserve _____.” Or, “work hard and play hard,” as they say.
I would love to hear your favorite excuse for over-working. Perhaps I just busted you. Sorry. Now get back to work…
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart. Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease. Go to: www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for your 20 minute complimentary (no pressure) Discovery Call.
I attended a Qi Gong seminar last weekend. But the highlight for me was actually not even the seminar (which was wonderful, too). You see, the seminar kick-off was 911 John. John was a 911 firefighter who told his moving and powerful story. There wasn’t a dry eye in the house. I decided, at that point that I needed to seek him out. The next day I went up to John. I took his hands in my hands, looked into his eyes through my moist eyes, and simply said, “thank you.” He got it. We embraced for what seemed to be a very long embrace. There are no words for my gratitude for what this brave and courageous man did. I felt deeply privileged to be able to witness and be in the presence of this man.
As I was thinking about this amazing experience the next day, it was as if I could hear John saying to me, “what if you felt this level of gratitude and honor for yourself?” My first response was to blow off the thought. Then I thought about how I would have felt if 911 John had blown me off. I looked in the mirror and began saying those words to myself. Powerful. I challenge you to try it…
Thanks for the miracle, John. You just keep on giving….
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart. Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease. Go to: www.EFTSoulPath.Comto sign up for your 20 minute complimentary (no pressure) Discovery Call.
This is one of the first questions I hear from folks when I tell them I do hypnosis. They get this scared, far-away look in their eyes, and then…out it comes. It always makes me chuckle. We’re so media programmed.
Not only will you not cluck like a chicken, you will most likely remember everything. You see, hypnosis is really just deep relaxation. It’s a very pleasant state, kind of like how you feel as you’re drifting off to sleep. When the conscious mind is deeply relaxed, the subconscious mind comes forward. It is the subconscious mind we want to access in hypnosis because the subconscious drives the bus. If that were not true, you could simply make up your mind to quit an addictive habit and it would be a done deal. But, we all know how effective that is, right? Remember what happened to your New Year’s Resolution?
People engage in hypnosis for a myriad of reasons because it gets to the heart of the matter: the cause. And when we access the heart, we bring in love and compassion. This approach neutralizes the original trigger, which gives you a peace that you may never have felt before. Truly liberating.
Hypnosis is a companion to EFT. EFT paves the way by getting you comfortable with uncomfortable emotions. This opens the heart with a readiness for hypnosis. They’re a great team!
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart. Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve ease with challenging emotions to live your life with grace and peace. Go to: www.EFTSoulPath.Comto sign up for your 20 minute complimentary (no pressure) Discovery Call.
Had you lived a few months longer, you would be 101 years old today.
I am blessed to have had you here for so long. I never told you this in person, but here are some things you taught me:
*ABK. Always be kind. All people are sensitive and deserve respect. “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” You never preached this. You lived it.
*Family first. I felt loved and safe no matter what. This was not necessarily communicated in words, but by your love in action.
*Share your gifts. You were all about serving others. This ranged from a broken appliance, carpentry work or volunteering at the hospital. You were always a first responder.
You were a man of few words but a huge heart. Perhaps that is why everyone who knew you loved being in your presence. You were an amazing role-model for me. That’s the best part.
I’m so happy that I told you often how proud I was of you. I hope you could really take that in.
I miss you, Pop, a lot. But knowing that you’re free of a restricted body to pursue your next exciting chapter helps ease my sadness tremendously.
I hope you have a good birthday…Love always, Laurel
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart. Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve the freedom you desire to live your life with grace and ease. Go to: www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for your 20 minute complimentary (no pressure) consultation..