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The Fear of Joy

“The cultivation of gratitude and joy is the way home”  –Brene Brown

Have you ever noticed that inevitably what follows the feeling of  joy is fear of‘ ‘the other shoe dropping’.  This is driven by the fear that tells you  that this joyful feeling  can’t last.  Wham!  Joy evaporates into the wet blanket syndrome.  Gone.  Fear of joy sounds crazy.  But, we really buy into it.   With a feeble attempt at self-protection, we let fear win.  Another way we mask joy is more subtle but powerful.  We don’t feel worthy of joy.  Joy feels so light that it’s almost kind of scary.   “Who am I to feel this good,” guilt scolds.

The new energies that are birthing on earth call us to be our highest expression.  They invite us to birth joy.  And, joy has a soulmate called gratitude.  It’s a package deal.  Joyful people are always grateful people.

I am discovering that the more I practice gratitude for the little things in my life:  a warm comfy bed, hot cup of tea, birds singing, sunshine and rain,  joy seems to slip in also.  Joy appears as a warm and gentle feeling of well-being that calls me deeply into the present moment with the intoxicating contentment of complete fulfillment.  Ahhh, I’m home.

Cultivating joy and gratitude is a practice.  It doesn’t just happen.  I invite you to be mindful of noticing that it is your choice to call in joy and gratitude.  This awareness alone shifts your focus from what’s wrong to what’s right.  It creates a download of feel-good chemicals that make your heart and your brain sync together. This, in turn, reduces stress.  Simply but powerfully It changes your life little by little.

I would like to share  this conversation between Oprah and Dr. Brene Brown with you,  “Joy:  It’s Terrifying,”   Brene is a highly  gifted speaker—one of my favorites.  Listen and you’ll know why.

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Can You Guess What The Most Lethal Emotion Is?

Oprah, talk show superstar and rape survivor, says that for victims of abuse, their trauma is not about the sex it’s the shame that is so destructive.

Dr. Brene Brown, shame researcher, defines shame as that painful feeling that we all have that says we are unworthy of love and belonging.

What empowers our shame is our denial.  Any emotion that we push down into our ‘shadow’ (emotional cage) controls us.  It sabotages our ability to create the freedom and happiness we deserve.

So, what is the solution?  Transparency and empathy to the rescue.  Shame does not want to be outed! It does not want you to flex your courage muscle and admit that shame is in your face.  Shame does not want you to treat yourself like you would treat your beloved child if they came crying to you that they felt shameful.  Would you judge them and withhold love or would you empathize with them?  Empathy is lethal to shame.  It collapses the shame and opens the heart; whereas, judgment closes the heart and empowers the shame.

Here’s my challenge for you:  When you notice your shame rearing its head, invite it forward and give it empathy.  “Oh, there you are, shame.  Thank you for being so vigilant and protecting me. I give you all the space you need.” Counterintuitive as this may seem, it is one small step you can practice to erode shame’s grip.

Next time you catch yourself in an inner battle, turn it into empathy.  It’s the small steps you take with consistency that will collapse shame’s strong-hold over your life.  Ahh relief…

Listen to an amazing 4 minute chat with Oprah and Dr. Brene on Shame. Click here

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