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How Your Limiting Beliefs Protect You…

The thing about limiting beliefs is that they can be so much a part of your thinking that you often don’t know that you have them and certainly don’t ever question their authority over you.  Limiting beliefs are sometimes defined as the “don’ts, can’ts, won’ts, and shouldn’ts.  They keep your world small to protect you from stretching your comfort zone.

Do you realize that you think up to 70K thoughts per day.  Most of your thoughts are negative or memories of the past.  When a thought tries to escape the confines of your limited world, you quickly return it to its place with thoughts of can’t, won’t or shouldn’t.  This too can be a unconscious process to keep you tethered to your fear.

What if the good news is that you’re wrong.  If only one person in the world has successfully challenged their limiting beliefs to achieve a dream, that means that you can too!

But how, you ask…

Well, How badly do you want Your dream?

If you really don’t want it badly enough to put anything at stake, it’s probably not worth the effort to even think about– so you can stop wasting your precious thought energy on it.  Perhaps it’s just a ‘should’ that you can eliminate.

Why do you want it?

What’s driving you?  Is it to compensate for an inner lack or is it a passion calling to you?  Get clear on what your limiting beliefs are protecting and you just might find your answers.

 What are you willing to put at stake?

Your time?  Your money?  Your energy?  Your relationships?  Your life? The answer to this question will indicate how important it is to you to challenge and overcome your limiting beliefs.

Are you willing to fail? 

Failure is one of your best teachers.  You will learn more from failure than you will ever learn from success.  If you are willing to include failure as part of the journey without letting it stop you, you have a very good chance of overcoming your limiting beliefs.  Discouragement is often a partner to failure.  If you can also welcome discouragement– congratulations, you’re on your way.

What’s your relationship with patience?

Celebrating baby steps–two steps forward, one step back—gives the achievement of your goal a very healthy prognosis.

In summary, your limiting beliefs protect a small world inside of your comfort zone.  You can live in that box but there’s a lot more aliveness in the unknown.

Challenge yourself by changing one small thing daily.  Take a different route to work.  Make a new friend.  Try a food that you decided long ago that you didn’t like.  Learn something new by daily listening to one of You Tube’s million podcasts.

What about deeply seated limiting beliefs

You may need an intervention that bypasses the conscious mind to transform deeply ingrained patterns.  Hypnosis and/or Emotional Freedom Technique is a therapy that accesses higher states of mind in order to reprogram deeply held limiting beliefs.  Change your beliefs to change your world—one step at a time.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system.  This frees you to  create a life you love.  Go to www.EFTSoulPath to learn more or email Laurel Brookes at:  laurelb.EFT@gmail.com

Check out:  Change Your Beliefs, Change Your World  by Hannah Oyewole (9 minutes)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Most Profound Gift You Can Give Another

The most profound gift we can give one another is our attention~

I don’t know said this but I love it.  I recall my first experience of feeling fully attended to.  It was when I saw a counselor in my early 20’s.  I will always remember how he gave me his undivided attention.  I felt like the most important person in his world.  I can’t even recall what he said to me.  His words were eclipsed by his rapt attention.  This experience of being received fully has had a deep and profound effect on my life and the way I listen to others.

In my desire to emulate this skill of attentive listening, I have become aware of

Ineffective Listening Skills:

  • Half-hearted listening for a pause to talk
  • Interrupting—‘the cardinal sin’
  • Listening to disagree or argue
  • Listening to ‘make-wrong’
  • Listening to give advice
  • Listening to one-up
  • And the list goes on and on….

Effective Listening Skills:

  • Being aware of the value of the gift of your presence
  • Making eye contact
  • Giving your undivided attention
  • Letting go of your agenda
  • Pausing before you respond
  • Being in non-judgment
  • Affirming the speaker to indicate that you have been listening
  • Knowing that it is not your job to solve their problem–your

only job is to hold a space of compassion and acceptance for them.

I challenge you to practice the skill of being an effective listener.  Be patient..  You might even notice a positive effect upon your relationships…

Watch “The Power of Listening” by Wm Ury .  CLICK HERE

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—this frees you to  create a life you love!
Schedule a complimentary discovery call now, email Laurel Brookes at:  laurelb.EFT@gmail.com

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The EFT “Tapping” Secret to Prevent Heart Disease

Joy is not a feeling.  It is the result of a relationship you have with your heart                                                             -Michael Brown, The Presence Process 

Enslavement by illusion is comfortable.  It is liberation by truth that people fear                                                            -David Hawkins, MD 

Honesty is the gold standard of our relationship with our heart.  The heart longs for honesty, at all cost.  Too often, however, honesty gets hijacked because we’re taught to push down painful, unwanted emotions.  This results in incubating shame and guilt—the grist of heart pain.  It also results in elaborate conflict as we attempt to distance from painful memories.  The heart, longing for simple honesty and acceptance now contracts with the heaviness of dishonesty and shame.  Is it any wonder that heart disease ranks highest in our mortality arena?

It is not the difficult emotions in your heart that cause your suffering.  Rather, it is the judgment or denial of these emotions that creates your pain.  We have so much fear around the territory of the heart that we treat it as a bogie-man.  The truth is that it is your cover up that causes dis-ease—which turns into disease.  Denial is infinitely more damaging than the courage of honesty.

EFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique)  is a safe and gentle method for you to begin to ‘cut the crap’ and explore your heart with respect and compassion.  It is your opportunity to experience those hidden feelings that you have pushed down due to guilt and shame.  With EFT, you get to allow these feelings to surface free of self-judgment.  Finally!

The secret to effective heart work is non-judgment and self acceptance.  You will find that when you are able to accept with compassion whatever you find in your heart—and just let it be—only then will it let you be.  The art of being with challenging emotions is the key to clearing their unrelenting grip on your life.

While this is not a practice for the casually curious, the tenacity of your heart honesty will reap you heart health in body, mind and spirit.

How To Watch Your Feelings here

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) Tapping and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart.  Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom  from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease.  Go to:  www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for her blog.

crying woman showing vulnerability

Why Vulnerability is Your Greatest Strength

A popular belief in our society is that vulnerability equals weakness.  I admit that I was once a member of that club.  But, Oprah credits her success to her willingness to be vulnerable—to show up and be seen.

Years ago I taught a class at a local massage school.  I usually pride myself on my teaching ability.  However, this class was a disaster!  I remember a woman named Rosie from that class.  The reason I remember her is that it seems like I ran into her everywhere.  It seems that Rosie showed up as a constant reminder of my failure. Every time I saw her, I’d hide my head and run.  She was a reminder from the Universe that I pushed down and ignored.  One day a friend invited me to a seminar.  You can guess who the teacher was.  Yup, Rosie!  I decided that it was time to face my demons.  When I walked in, Rosie gave me a polite smile.  I cringed.  Then I walked right up to her and blurted out, “Rosie, I have a confession to make.  Every time I see you, I hide in shame because years ago you were in my class that I bombed.  You are a constant reminder of how badly I did. I’m tired of giving my shame power over me and that’s why I need to say this.  Thanks for listening.” She looked at me with bewilderment and quietly stated, “sorry, I don’t remember any class but you do look familiar.”  In that moment, we both laughed together.  All my shame vanished. Abracadabra!  It was magical.  My courage to be vulnerable freed my shame.

Secrets erode our well-being.  I wonder how many folks resist asking for support because they are slaves to their shameful secrets.  They fear judgment.  I invite you to examine what you are hiding and where you could risk being more courageous and vulnerable.  You just might love the freedom it brings you!

Listen in on a 4 minute conversation between Oprah and Dr. Brene Brown on vulnerability and courage.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fi0IEOBDRpQ

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart.  Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom  from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease.  Go to:  www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for your 20 minute complimentary (no pressure) Discovery Call.

911 John Just Keeps on Giving…

I attended a Qi Gong seminar last weekend. But the highlight for me was actually not even the seminar (which was wonderful, too).  You see, the seminar kick-off  was 911 John.  John was a 911 firefighter who told his moving and powerful story.  There wasn’t a dry eye in the house.  I decided, at that point that I needed to seek him out.  The next day I went up to John.  I took his hands in my hands, looked into his eyes through my moist eyes, and simply said, “thank you.”  He got it.  We embraced for what seemed to be a very long embrace.  There are no words for my gratitude for what this brave and courageous man did.  I felt deeply privileged to be able to witness and be in the presence of this man.

As I was thinking about this amazing experience the next day, it was as if I could hear John saying to me, “what if you felt this level of gratitude and honor for yourself?”  My first response was to blow off the thought.  Then I thought about how I would have felt if 911 John had blown me off.  I looked in the mirror and began saying those words to myself.  Powerful.  I challenge you to try it…

Thanks for the miracle, John.  You just keep on giving….

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart.  Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom  from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease.  Go to:  www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for your 20 minute complimentary (no pressure) Discovery Call.