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How Your Limiting Beliefs Protect You…

The thing about limiting beliefs is that they can be so much a part of your thinking that you often don’t know that you have them and certainly don’t ever question their authority over you.  Limiting beliefs are sometimes defined as the “don’ts, can’ts, won’ts, and shouldn’ts.  They keep your world small to protect you from stretching your comfort zone.

Do you realize that you think up to 70K thoughts per day.  Most of your thoughts are negative or memories of the past.  When a thought tries to escape the confines of your limited world, you quickly return it to its place with thoughts of can’t, won’t or shouldn’t.  This too can be a unconscious process to keep you tethered to your fear.

What if the good news is that you’re wrong.  If only one person in the world has successfully challenged their limiting beliefs to achieve a dream, that means that you can too!

But how, you ask…

Well, How badly do you want Your dream?

If you really don’t want it badly enough to put anything at stake, it’s probably not worth the effort to even think about– so you can stop wasting your precious thought energy on it.  Perhaps it’s just a ‘should’ that you can eliminate.

Why do you want it?

What’s driving you?  Is it to compensate for an inner lack or is it a passion calling to you?  Get clear on what your limiting beliefs are protecting and you just might find your answers.

 What are you willing to put at stake?

Your time?  Your money?  Your energy?  Your relationships?  Your life? The answer to this question will indicate how important it is to you to challenge and overcome your limiting beliefs.

Are you willing to fail? 

Failure is one of your best teachers.  You will learn more from failure than you will ever learn from success.  If you are willing to include failure as part of the journey without letting it stop you, you have a very good chance of overcoming your limiting beliefs.  Discouragement is often a partner to failure.  If you can also welcome discouragement– congratulations, you’re on your way.

What’s your relationship with patience?

Celebrating baby steps–two steps forward, one step back—gives the achievement of your goal a very healthy prognosis.

In summary, your limiting beliefs protect a small world inside of your comfort zone.  You can live in that box but there’s a lot more aliveness in the unknown.

Challenge yourself by changing one small thing daily.  Take a different route to work.  Make a new friend.  Try a food that you decided long ago that you didn’t like.  Learn something new by daily listening to one of You Tube’s million podcasts.

What about deeply seated limiting beliefs

You may need an intervention that bypasses the conscious mind to transform deeply ingrained patterns.  Hypnosis and/or Emotional Freedom Technique is a therapy that accesses higher states of mind in order to reprogram deeply held limiting beliefs.  Change your beliefs to change your world—one step at a time.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system.  This frees you to  create a life you love.  Go to www.EFTSoulPath to learn more or email Laurel Brookes at:  laurelb.EFT@gmail.com

Check out:  Change Your Beliefs, Change Your World  by Hannah Oyewole (9 minutes)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Fear of Joy

“The cultivation of gratitude and joy is the way home”  –Brene Brown

Have you ever noticed that inevitably what follows the feeling of  joy is fear of‘ ‘the other shoe dropping’.  This is driven by the fear that tells you  that this joyful feeling  can’t last.  Wham!  Joy evaporates into the wet blanket syndrome.  Gone.  Fear of joy sounds crazy.  But, we really buy into it.   With a feeble attempt at self-protection, we let fear win.  Another way we mask joy is more subtle but powerful.  We don’t feel worthy of joy.  Joy feels so light that it’s almost kind of scary.   “Who am I to feel this good,” guilt scolds.

The new energies that are birthing on earth call us to be our highest expression.  They invite us to birth joy.  And, joy has a soulmate called gratitude.  It’s a package deal.  Joyful people are always grateful people.

I am discovering that the more I practice gratitude for the little things in my life:  a warm comfy bed, hot cup of tea, birds singing, sunshine and rain,  joy seems to slip in also.  Joy appears as a warm and gentle feeling of well-being that calls me deeply into the present moment with the intoxicating contentment of complete fulfillment.  Ahhh, I’m home.

Cultivating joy and gratitude is a practice.  It doesn’t just happen.  I invite you to be mindful of noticing that it is your choice to call in joy and gratitude.  This awareness alone shifts your focus from what’s wrong to what’s right.  It creates a download of feel-good chemicals that make your heart and your brain sync together. This, in turn, reduces stress.  Simply but powerfully It changes your life little by little.

I would like to share  this conversation between Oprah and Dr. Brene Brown with you,  “Joy:  It’s Terrifying,”   Brene is a highly  gifted speaker—one of my favorites.  Listen and you’ll know why.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—this frees you to  create a life you love…
Schedule a complimentary discovery call now, email Laurel Brookes at:  laurelb.EFT@gmail.com

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Why Is Your Inner Child Running the Show?

We all have an inner child who holds our unwanted (shadow) emotions. You know,  all the emotions we’re taught to be ashamed of and push down.  And, like all kids, he/she just wants your attention.  If the child doesn’t get your attention, they will throw a fit until you acknowledge them.  EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a simple and highly effective therapy for working with our inner children in a respectful way.  Here are the simplified steps:

  1. You begin with the end. Ask yourself how you want to feel?  Example: peace. Therefore, peace would be your intended outcome.
  1. Identify what’s in the way; in other words, what do you feel now.  Example: anger.
  1. Engage the anger fully by giving love to your inner angry child while tapping. Give them the space to feel exactly how they feel.  This is not about blame.  Counterintuitive as it may seem to honor your angry inner child, that’s exactly where you’ll find the freedom you’re seeking.  Our inner child just wants our love and attention.  When you let them  be, they will also let you be.
  1. After the emotion has subsided, now is the time to tap on your intended outcome.  This strengthens and internalizes your goals and intentions.

It is my observation that the reason we get bogged down in the  swamp of complicated emotion is because we’re taught to judge and bury our emotions rather than honoring them.  I have taught EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to many clients, helping  them to free themselves from unwanted emotional baggage.

If you want support in freeing your inner child, let EFTSoulPath guide you on your journey to self-love so that you can begin to create a life you love.

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—so that you can create a life you love! 

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Can You Guess the #1 Regret of the Dying?

I find it useful to reflect upon the regrets of the dying.  Perhaps they’ve learned some wisdom that we can apply today.  In my research, without exception, the top regret of those preparing for their journey home is, “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.”  Isn’t hindsight a wonderful thing?

This begs the question, why do we work so hard?

I think it goes way beyond the economic piece that gets tons of legitimacy. Our culture has bought into the myth that if I work hard, I’m somehow a better person.   We speak of ‘lazy and unmotivated’ folks with great disdain.  Also, have you ever noticed the self-importance people seem to communicate when they tell you how busy their schedule is?  It’s as if busyness is a badge of honor and success—or at least being a member of the in-club.

Many folks seem to have work tied to self-worth.  The harder I work, the more valuable I am.

Work also serves as the perfect distraction.  If I’m driven by my work, I not only get lots of kudos from other people, I get a huge and credible excuse that keeps me from looking within—or just being with myself. Just being with me sounds boring and scary.  Free time is unacceptable.  But I probably won’t admit that!

Over working can also be a slippery excuse for justifying our many and various addictions.  “I worked so hard today, I deserve _____.”  Or, “work hard and play hard,” as they say.

I would love to hear your favorite excuse for over-working.  Perhaps I just busted you.  Sorry.  Now get back to work… 

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart.  Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom  from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease.  Go to:  www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for your 20 minute complimentary (no pressure) Discovery Call.

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Why Vulnerability is Your Greatest Strength

A popular belief in our society is that vulnerability equals weakness.  I admit that I was once a member of that club.  But, Oprah credits her success to her willingness to be vulnerable—to show up and be seen.

Years ago I taught a class at a local massage school.  I usually pride myself on my teaching ability.  However, this class was a disaster!  I remember a woman named Rosie from that class.  The reason I remember her is that it seems like I ran into her everywhere.  It seems that Rosie showed up as a constant reminder of my failure. Every time I saw her, I’d hide my head and run.  She was a reminder from the Universe that I pushed down and ignored.  One day a friend invited me to a seminar.  You can guess who the teacher was.  Yup, Rosie!  I decided that it was time to face my demons.  When I walked in, Rosie gave me a polite smile.  I cringed.  Then I walked right up to her and blurted out, “Rosie, I have a confession to make.  Every time I see you, I hide in shame because years ago you were in my class that I bombed.  You are a constant reminder of how badly I did. I’m tired of giving my shame power over me and that’s why I need to say this.  Thanks for listening.” She looked at me with bewilderment and quietly stated, “sorry, I don’t remember any class but you do look familiar.”  In that moment, we both laughed together.  All my shame vanished. Abracadabra!  It was magical.  My courage to be vulnerable freed my shame.

Secrets erode our well-being.  I wonder how many folks resist asking for support because they are slaves to their shameful secrets.  They fear judgment.  I invite you to examine what you are hiding and where you could risk being more courageous and vulnerable.  You just might love the freedom it brings you!

Listen in on a 4 minute conversation between Oprah and Dr. Brene Brown on vulnerability and courage.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fi0IEOBDRpQ

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart.  Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom  from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease.  Go to:  www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for your 20 minute complimentary (no pressure) Discovery Call.

Hypnosis…”but will I cluck like a chicken?”

This is one of the first questions I hear from folks when I tell them I do hypnosis.  They get this scared, far-away look in their eyes, and then…out it comes. It always makes me chuckle.  We’re so media programmed.

Not only will you not cluck like a chicken, you will most likely remember everything.  You see, hypnosis is really just deep relaxation.  It’s a very pleasant state, kind of like how you feel as you’re drifting off to sleep.  When the conscious mind is deeply relaxed, the subconscious mind comes forward.  It is the subconscious mind we want to access in hypnosis because the subconscious drives the bus.  If that were not true, you could simply make up your mind to quit an addictive habit and it would be a done deal.  But, we all know how effective that is, right?  Remember what happened to your New Year’s Resolution?

People engage in hypnosis for a myriad of reasons because it gets to the heart of the matter: the cause.  And when we access the heart, we bring in love and compassion.  This approach neutralizes the original trigger, which gives you a peace that you may never have felt before.  Truly liberating.

Hypnosis is a companion to EFT.  EFT paves the way by getting you comfortable with uncomfortable emotions.  This opens the heart with a readiness for hypnosis.  They’re a great team!

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart.  Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve ease with challenging emotions  to live your life with grace and peace.  Go to:  www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for your 20 minute complimentary (no pressure) Discovery Call.