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Can You Guess the #1 Regret of the Dying?

I find it useful to reflect upon the regrets of the dying.  Perhaps they’ve learned some wisdom that we can apply today.  In my research, without exception, the top regret of those preparing for their journey home is, “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.”  Isn’t hindsight a wonderful thing?

This begs the question, why do we work so hard?

I think it goes way beyond the economic piece that gets tons of legitimacy. Our culture has bought into the myth that if I work hard, I’m somehow a better person.   We speak of ‘lazy and unmotivated’ folks with great disdain.  Also, have you ever noticed the self-importance people seem to communicate when they tell you how busy their schedule is?  It’s as if busyness is a badge of honor and success—or at least being a member of the in-club.

Many folks seem to have work tied to self-worth.  The harder I work, the more valuable I am.

Work also serves as the perfect distraction.  If I’m driven by my work, I not only get lots of kudos from other people, I get a huge and credible excuse that keeps me from looking within—or just being with myself. Just being with me sounds boring and scary.  Free time is unacceptable.  But I probably won’t admit that!

Over working can also be a slippery excuse for justifying our many and various addictions.  “I worked so hard today, I deserve _____.”  Or, “work hard and play hard,” as they say.

I would love to hear your favorite excuse for over-working.  Perhaps I just busted you.  Sorry.  Now get back to work… 

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart.  Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom  from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease.  Go to:  www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for your 20 minute complimentary (no pressure) Discovery Call.

 

 

 

 

Why Vulnerability is Your Greatest Strength

A popular belief in our society is that vulnerability equals weakness.  I admit that I was once a member of that club.  But, Oprah credits her success to her willingness to be vulnerable—to show up and be seen.

Years ago I taught a class at a local massage school.  I usually pride myself on my teaching ability.  However, this class was a disaster!  I remember a woman named Rosie from that class.  The reason I remember her is that it seems like I ran into her everywhere.  It seems that Rosie showed up as a constant reminder of my failure. Every time I saw her, I’d hide my head and run.  She was a reminder from the Universe that I pushed down and ignored.  One day a friend invited me to a seminar.  You can guess who the teacher was.  Yup, Rosie!  I decided that it was time to face my demons.  When I walked in, Rosie gave me a polite smile.  I cringed.  Then I walked right up to her and blurted out, “Rosie, I have a confession to make.  Every time I see you, I hide in shame because years ago you were in my class that I bombed.  You are a constant reminder of how badly I did. I’m tired of giving my shame power over me and that’s why I need to say this.  Thanks for listening.” She looked at me with bewilderment and quietly stated, “sorry, I don’t remember any class but you do look familiar.”  In that moment, we both laughed together.  All my shame vanished. Abracadabra!  It was magical.  My courage to be vulnerable freed my shame.

Secrets erode our well-being.  I wonder how many folks resist asking for support because they are slaves to their shameful secrets.  They fear judgment.  I invite you to examine what you are hiding and where you could risk being more courageous and vulnerable.  You just might love the freedom it brings you!

Listen in on a 4 minute conversation between Oprah and Dr. Brene Brown on vulnerability and courage.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fi0IEOBDRpQ

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart.  Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve freedom  from challenging emotions, to live your life with grace and ease.  Go to:  www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for your 20 minute complimentary (no pressure) Discovery Call.

 

 

Hypnosis…”but will I cluck like a chicken?”

This is one of the first questions I hear from folks when I tell them I do hypnosis.  They get this scared, far-away look in their eyes, and then…out it comes. It always makes me chuckle.  We’re so media programmed.

Not only will you not cluck like a chicken, you will most likely remember everything.  You see, hypnosis is really just deep relaxation.  It’s a very pleasant state, kind of like how you feel as you’re drifting off to sleep.  When the conscious mind is deeply relaxed, the subconscious mind comes forward.  It is the subconscious mind we want to access in hypnosis because the subconscious drives the bus.  If that were not true, you could simply make up your mind to quit an addictive habit and it would be a done deal.  But, we all know how effective that is, right?  Remember what happened to your New Year’s Resolution?

People engage in hypnosis for a myriad of reasons because it gets to the heart of the matter: the cause.  And when we access the heart, we bring in love and compassion.  This approach neutralizes the original trigger, which gives you a peace that you may never have felt before.  Truly liberating.

Hypnosis is a companion to EFT.  EFT paves the way by getting you comfortable with uncomfortable emotions.  This opens the heart with a readiness for hypnosis.  They’re a great team!

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and hypnosis are effective practices for opening the heart.  Laurel is skilled in assisting you to achieve ease with challenging emotions  to live your life with grace and peace.  Go to:  www.EFTSoulPath.Com to sign up for your 20 minute complimentary (no pressure) Discovery Call.