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The Most Profound Gift You Can Give Another

The most profound gift we can give one another is our attention~

I don’t know said this but I love it.  I recall my first experience of feeling fully attended to.  It was when I saw a counselor in my early 20’s.  I will always remember how he gave me his undivided attention.  I felt like the most important person in his world.  I can’t even recall what he said to me.  His words were eclipsed by his rapt attention.  This experience of being received fully has had a deep and profound effect on my life and the way I listen to others.

In my desire to emulate this skill of attentive listening, I have become aware of

Ineffective Listening Skills:

  • Half-hearted listening for a pause to talk
  • Interrupting—‘the cardinal sin’
  • Listening to disagree or argue
  • Listening to ‘make-wrong’
  • Listening to give advice
  • Listening to one-up
  • And the list goes on and on….

Effective Listening Skills:

  • Being aware of the value of the gift of your presence
  • Making eye contact
  • Giving your undivided attention
  • Letting go of your agenda
  • Pausing before you respond
  • Being in non-judgment
  • Affirming the speaker to indicate that you have been listening
  • Knowing that it is not your job to solve their problem–your

only job is to hold a space of compassion and acceptance for them.

I challenge you to practice the skill of being an effective listener.  Be patient..  You might even notice a positive effect upon your relationships…

Watch “The Power of Listening” by Wm Ury .  CLICK HERE

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