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How The ‘Rejection Trap’ Affects Your Life

Everyone fears rejection.  We each find our own way of coping with these or similar situations:

  • If you grew up with or are married to a critical authority figure
  • If you were bullied or made fun of in school
  • If you avoid relationships because you were dumped
  • If your supervisor or coworkers demean you

Rejection hurts deeply.  It’s understandable that you will do just about anything to avoid it. But…

  • Imagine feeling empowered even though someone is criticizing you.
  • Imagine not having to react to others’ careless remarks
  • Imagine responding calmly to button-pushers
  • Imagine avoiding taking the bait in the first place

The next time someone says something potentially hurtful to you, here are 5 strategies, outlined by Marisa Peer, best-selling author and motivational speaker, to AVOID the rejection trap:

  1. “Thank you for sharing.  Your opinion is noted.” Calmly deliver this powerful response non-defensively.  You will find that this dissipates the tension.
  2. “I’m sorry, could you repeat that please”  This unlikely response gives them pause to reflect upon their words.  90% of the time they will think about and retract what they said.  Again, don’t take it in. Stay calm.
  3. “Are you trying to be hurtful?”  Again, your non-defensive demeanor will give them pause to reflect and clarify their intention behind their words.
  4. Calmly and simply state, “I’m not going to let that in.”
  5. Evenly reply, “Did you know that critical people don’t like themselves. They are outwardly projecting their own personal dissatisfaction.  When they do this, they are showing everyone that they are their own worse critic.”  This confident delivery empowers you.

Visualize the insults coming at you like a tennis match.  Hit the ball back quickly with skill and confidence before it touches your body.  These techniques only work if you stay non-defensive.   Don’t take the insult in.  If you discipline yourself to respond vs react, you will find the strategies highly effective.

Have fun practicing this new challenge.  Along with being happier and less stressed, it may even save your life, your marriage or your job.  Worth the work?  Definitely.  Try it and see for yourself…

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EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—this frees you to  create a life you love!
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  • If you grew up with a critical authority figure
  • If you were bullied or made fun of in school
  • If you avoid relationships because you were dumped
  • If your supervisor or coworkers demean you

 

If you find yourself avoiding connection with others as a means of self-protection, that’s a pretty good indication that you have probably internalized other people’s rejection of you.  Rejection hurts deeply.  It’s understandable that you will do anything to avoid it.

 

The good news is that there are ways to avoid taking in rejection in the first place.

 

The next time someone says something potentially hurtful to you, here are 5 strategies to AVOID internalizing the rejection:

 

  1. “Thank you for sharing.  Your opinion is noted.”

Calmly deliver this powerful response non-defensively.  You will find that this dissipates the tension.

 

  1. “I’m sorry, could you repeat that please”  This unlikely response gives them pause to reflect upon their words.  90% of the time they will think about and retract what they said.  Again, don’t take it in. Stay calm.

 

  1. “Are you trying to be hurtful?”  Again, your non-defensive demeanor will give them pause to reflect and clarify their intention behind their words.

 

  1. Calmly and simply state, “I’m not going to let that in.”

 

  1. Evenly reply, “Did you know that critical people don’t like themselves. They are outwardly projecting their own personal dissatisfaction.  When they do this, they are showing everyone that they are their own worse critic.”  This confident delivery empowers you.

 

You might visualize the insults coming at you as a tennis match.  Hit the ball back quickly with  skill and confidence.  These  techniques only work if you stay non-defensive.   Don’t take the bait.  If you discipline yourself to respond vs react, you will find the strategies are highly effective.

 

Have fun practicing this new challenge.  Along with being happier and less stressed, it may even save your life, your marriage or your job.

 


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Five Secret Ingredients for Manifesting Lasting Change…

Being a life-long student of human potential, I am passionate about discovering methods to achieve real change in life versus rearranging deck chairs on the titanic.  In my quest for body, mind and spirit wholeness, I have discovered three teachers that share timeless wisdom.  Neville Goddard,  Dr. Wayne Dyer and Dr. Joe Dispenza all have a similar message regarding  lasting change.

  1.  Begin with the end.  Visualize already having manifested your desired change.  Feel how you will feel   Desire it with full passion.  Train your mind to only focus on what you want—not on what you do not want or do not have.
  1. Add gratitude.  Gratitude is the motivating ‘glue’ that creates the transformational alchemy necessary for change.  Cultivating deep gratitude is the secret.  As Eric Butterworth,  legendary Unity pioneer tells us,  “gratitude is a causative energy, not a reactionary emotion.”
  1. Passion:  Do you desire your desire more than anything?  Is it the driving force in your life?  Can you feel, taste, smell and visualize it?
  1. Surrender: Let go of your attachment to outcome.  Your only job is to design it, visualize it and release it.  “This or something better…”
  1.   Meditate daily on already having achieved your intention.  Consistency is a big time game-changer.   Consistency is key.

What changes do you desire in your life so passionately that you are willing to exercise these 5 steps with consistency to make it happen?  Be honest.  If the answer is “nothing” that’s okay.  Just don’t torture yourself by saying that you really want something but you just can’t manifest it.    You absolutely can –if you follow the steps with consistency.

Watch Dr. Joe Dispenza on “How to Change Subconscious Programs”

This sounds pretty simple.  Then why don’t most folks achieve their desired life changes?  I’d love to hear from you.  Please comment below…

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is a gentle and effective system of clearing self-sabotage and limiting beliefs from your energy system—so that you can create a life you love! 

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